It’s been a while since my last post but it happened a lot during the last months! Yes, I or better we got married but let’s start from the beginning.
Have you ever tried to marry a non-EU-citizen in Germany? Well, you better don’t even think about it. It might be a difference if your spouse comes from Switzerland, Canada or the US but if it’s something else you better think of a plan B.
When we first contacted the registry in Germany and I explained our case we got a looong Email as reply. Generally a long list of documents we have to bring them in order to proof my (future) husbands identity. You literally have to bring them each single document where the name is written on from the time he/she was born till now. Once you gave them all required documents they start to proof each of them to finally make a decision wether you’re allowed to get married or not. It’s a long and expensive process and even the officer told us in the end of his Email “Maybe you should try to get married in Denmark”.
First I thought no way but still I was curious why he recommended Denmark and started a google-research. I learned that Denmark is the Las Vegas in Europe and that it is a big business for wedding agencies in Germany. But the more information I read about it the more interested we got about the idea.
Generally you can get married in Denmark in each commune even if you’re not a danish citizen. You only need to be legal in the EU-Zone which means you have to have a Visa or you need to be a EU citizen. Beside of that each commune has different requirements. So we checked out Copenhagen and Sonderburg but there are way more options. Some communes require that you stay 3 days in advance in Denmark but others don’t. We finally chose Copenhagen as they only need 3 documents: the filled out wedding form you can find on their website (http://subsite.kk.dk/sitecore/content/Subsites/CityOfCopenhagen/SubsiteFrontpage.aspx?element=header) copy of your passport and if needed copy of your visa and certificate of your marital status. In case you have been married before additional a certificate of the divorce. The second plus for us was that we could submit all documents via Email.
Once they proofed everything they’ll send an Email with bank account details to transfer the fee which was 60€ and after that you can book your appointment at the registry. As we wanted to get married in July they were pretty busy and beside of sending everything via mail we had to call them couple of times but generally everything worked out well.
We arrived 2 days before our wedding in beautiful Copenhagen and we really enjoyed our time there. The city hall in Copenhagen is an amazing old building and the absolute perfect wedding location. The ceremony itself was short… it just took us about 5 minutes to say “Yes, I will”…but it was nice the same time.
All in all I can say I would recommend to get married in Denmark. There’s no need to use one of these agencies as everything was easy to do on our own. The only thing which takes a little time is to find the perfect commune for your wedding. For us it was definitely Copenhagen but for someone else another one might be better. But you can find detailed information about almost every commune online this research just takes a little bit of time.
The next good thing was that we got an international wedding certificate which is already issued in 5 different languages. As it is a European certificate it is well accepted in Germany. We just had to go to the local registry to register that we’re married. The only challenging thing was the change of name in Germany because in Denmark it is not possible to change the name if you’re not living there. In our case the registry officer said we have to go through the normal German process if I wanna change my name which was a bit of a shock in the beginning. At home we started the next google research and everything I found was that it’s possible to change it. So I wrote another Email to the registry and asked for a written comment why he said it’s not possible and few hours later we got the response to come around again so he can change it 🙂
So whatever they’ll tell you at your registry…it is definitely possible to change the name as it is your right to do so if you get married. Only if you want a German wedding certificate to be issued you have to go through the complete German process!